Bow Ties for Women: Confidence, Style, and Equality
- Emma Moore
- Oct 15
- 5 min read
By Emma Moore · Originally published May 14, 2024 · Updated October 2025 5–6 min read
I’ve always believed that the bow tie deserves far more credit than it gets. Once seen as the hallmark of professors and party hosts, it’s quietly redefined itself as a symbol of confidence and character. What fascinates me most is how this small knot of fabric has stepped out from the so-called boys’ club and into the wardrobes of anyone bold enough to make a statement — whether that’s a woman wearing tweed, a non-binary creative in cotton, or a gent rediscovering slow fashion.
At Arsenic & Old Lace, we mostly work with cotton, wool, and tweed, because these natural fibres hold character and shape. They age beautifully, are sustainable, and feel intentional — which is exactly how I think a bow tie should feel. Honestly, there’s something comforting about knowing a tie will last through weddings, parties, and the odd spilled glass of champagne.
A Memory That Changed Everything
Almost a decade ago, a woman walked into my studio looking nervous but radiant. She was getting married to her partner in a small, intimate ceremony, and she wanted a bow tie — something sharp, classic, but with personality. I remember holding up a soft tweed piece, feeling the texture under my fingers, and seeing her eyes light up — that little grin she gave me, I’ll never forget.
When she left that day, bow tie perfectly knotted (and me secretly hoping it didn’t wobble as soon as she walked out), I felt something shift. It wasn’t just a sale — it was a quiet moment of joy and affirmation. That bow tie became part of her story, and that day reminded me why I do what I do: fashion is a tool for self-expression, love, and equality. Every bow tie I sell carries that memory with it.
When the Trend Makes Headlines
It’s been wonderful to see the press catching up with what I’ve been seeing for years. Recently, The Telegraph featured Sienna Miller giving tuxedo dressing a fresh, feminine twist with a bow tie (The Telegraph).
I adored that look — not because it was groundbreaking, but because it was natural. It proved what I tell my customers every week — fashion isn’t binary, it’s personal, really. You don’t “borrow” a bow tie from the boys — you claim it as your own.
Over in The Guardian, the piece “Fit to be tied: why are bows absolutely everywhere in 2024?” (The Guardian) explored how bows and ribbons are everywhere — a symbol of self-expression.
I couldn’t agree more. After years of celebrating minimalism, people are craving individuality — something soft, expressive, imperfect, and human. That’s exactly what a bow tie can be.
Trends move in cycles. Another Guardian article, “Bows are so millennial. These days, Gen Z are rediscovering the neck tie” (The Guardian), suggested that younger people are exploring ties in new, inclusive ways — looser knots, playful prints, no rules.
I love that too. Bow ties and neckties don’t compete; they converse. Fashion should never tell you who to be — it should help you tell your story.
Equality, Identity, and the Power of Personal Style
I’ve dressed everyone from brides and drag performers to grooms, artists, and professors. And what I’ve learned is this: the bow tie doesn’t care who you are — it simply reflects how you wear it.
Fashion isn’t just about self-presentation; it’s about self-affirmation. Every time someone ties a bow, they’re claiming space — saying this is me. That’s what makes the bow tie timeless. It doesn’t belong to one gender, age, or profession — it belongs to whoever feels confident wearing it.
I’ve had women tell me they wore a bow tie to a job interview to feel powerful, or to a wedding because they wanted to stand next to their partner as equals. And that first bow tie I sold for a same-sex marriage? I’ll never forget it. That tiny knot reminded me that style isn’t just decoration — it’s love, identity, and courage stitched into fabric.
If you’ve ever wondered how women can rock a bow tie, check out my top 10 FAQs below — packed with tips, trends, and a few personal anecdotes.
Women in Bow Ties: 10 Quick FAQs
1. Can women wear bow ties?
Yes! Bow ties are for anyone confident enough to wear them — women included. They add personality, polish, and style to any outfit.
2. What fabrics work best for women’s bow ties?
I recommend cotton, wool, or tweed. These natural fibres hold shape, feel intentional, and are perfect for everyday or formal wear.
3. How can women style bow ties professionally?
Pair with a tailored blazer, high-waisted trousers, or structured dress. Neutral colours keep it polished; patterns add personality. Confidence is key.
4. Are bow ties appropriate for weddings or formal events?
Absolutely. They work for brides, grooms, and guests, especially when coordinated with jackets, dresses, or colour schemes.
5. How do bow ties support inclusivity and self-expression?
Bow ties let women and gender-fluid individuals challenge traditional fashion norms while expressing style, personality, and equality.
6. Any tips for first-time bow tie wearers?
Start with wool or cotton, don’t stress about perfect symmetry, and wear it with confidence — attitude matters as much as fabric.
7. Can women mix bow ties with casual outfits?
Yes! Pair a cotton bow tie with denim, crisp shirts, or knitwear. It adds a playful, unexpected flair to casual looks.
8. Are there bow tie trends for women?
Yes — slimmer cuts, bold textures, and unique patterns like tartan, houndstooth, or velvet. Keep jewellery minimal and let the bow tie shine.
9. How do I choose the right bow tie size for women?
Match the bow tie to collar width and proportion. Slim or “skinny” styles often suit smaller frames, but experiment to find balance.
10. Can bow ties be a gift for women?
Definitely. They’re personal, stylish, and symbolic. I’ll never forget selling my first bow tie to a woman for her same-sex wedding — it was a joyful, empowering moment.
Style Tip: If you’re new to bow ties, start with textured fabrics like wool or tweed — they hold shape beautifully and feel more relaxed than others. And don’t worry if your bow isn’t perfectly symmetrical; a slightly off-kilter knot often looks more charming and authentic. Confidence will always be your best accessory.
Join the Conversation:
I’d love to see how you style your bow ties — tag @arsenicandoldlaceuk on Instagram and show me your look. Whether you’re wearing one to a wedding, a night out, or just because it makes you smile — remember, confidence looks good on everyone.
With Love
xx
Emma
About the Author
Emma Moore is the founder and creative director of Arsenic & Old Lace, a British accessories studio specialising in handcrafted cotton, wool, and tweed bow ties and neckties. With over a decade in styling and tailoring, Emma blends craftsmanship with storytelling, sustainability, and inclusivity. Her work has been featured in LeftLion and other British style publications, and she’s a passionate advocate for fashion that welcomes everyone — regardless of gender, size, or background. When she’s not designing, she’s probably ironing something she swore she’d leave creased — or rescuing pins from the floor.
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