10 Tips to Get Your Child Excited About Wearing a Bow Tie for a Wedding

When I first started Arsenic and Old Lace, I was on maternity leave with my first son. Back then, nap times were my window for sewing bowties, and I’ll never forget the chaos of trying to pack an order while rocking a newborn with one arm. Fast forward a few years, and I now have two energetic boys who are well past the toddler stage—but those early experiences shaped both me as a mum and as a maker.

Being a parent has taught me patience, resilience, and the joy of celebrating life’s little victories. And when it comes to weddings, I know just how tricky it can be to convince children (and especially kids who know their own minds!) to wear something like a bow tie. Over the years, I’ve created bowties for many family occasions, and I’ve picked up plenty of tried-and-tested tips along the way.

1. Make It a Fun Adventure

Children are far more likely to get excited if wearing a bowtie feels like part of a game or a special occasion. When my boys were younger, we often turned bow ties into a dress-up activity—it made them feel playful rather than “formal.”

2. Let Them Choose Their Style

Kids love having a say. Whether it’s a floral bow tie, a favourite colour, or something that matches Dad, letting children choose their own style helps them feel proud of their outfit.

3. Start Small

If your child isn’t used to dressing up, try a practice run at a family meal or party. Once kids get comfortable in bowties in relaxed settings, they’re much happier wearing them on the big day.

4. Match With Mum or Dad

Twinning is always a hit. When children see a parent wearing a coordinating bowtie or tie, they usually beam with pride at being part of the “team look.”

5. Tell a Story

I’ll never forget a little boy whose bow tie became part of his “superhero costume”—suddenly he couldn’t wait to wear it. Kids love a story, and weaving one in makes bowties so much more fun.

6. Practice Together

Children enjoy the attention of getting ready. Standing in front of the mirror together to try on bow ties turns it into a bonding moment rather than a battle.

7. Keep Comfort in Mind

As any parent knows, comfort is everything. Soft fabrics, adjustable straps, and lightweight designs make kids’ bowties far easier to wear for longer.

8. Celebrate Their Look

A few kind words go a long way. Telling your child how grown-up and smart they look in their bow tie can completely change their attitude toward wearing it.

9. Capture the Moment

Kids love seeing themselves in photos. A quick snap of them looking sharp in their bowtie can often convince them to keep it on proudly.

10. Stay Relaxed

Children can sense our mood. If you approach the bow tie with positivity and calm, they’re far more likely to enjoy wearing it too.

My Final Thoughts

As both a mum and the founder of Arsenic and Old Lace, I know weddings with kids can be unpredictable—but they’re also full of magic. A bowtie should feel like a celebration, not a burden. With the right approach, your child can see their bow tie as part of the fun and excitement of the day.

If you’d like to explore children’s bowties, you can take a look at our collection here. You might just find the perfect match for your child’s big day.

With Love

Emma x